Oct 24, 2011. I went on a date a month ago with a boy I met on an online dating site. And I also embrace the sex on the first date test, if they ditch you for being a. his internet comment, I think this article smartly taps the nail on the head.She concludes, "One size does not fit all when it comes to life or love." Stay Ahead of the Rest Sign Up for AlterNet's Daily Newsletter EMAIL : sign up for additional lists x Select additional lists by selecting the checkboxes below before clicking Subscribe.Its not hard to figure out that a lot of people have abandoned the first-comes-love mandate when it comes to sex and dating. Many modern daters have happily adjusted to the idea that people are capable of enjoying themselves sexually while pursuing a relationship.When The Cut decided to interview a series of women for the article, Fucking on the First Date, one woman said, Looking back, I'm convinced I made it too easy for him. No challenge. I wish I played it differently at least then we could have.Among the many rules promoted by dating coaches Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider is, Be smart, stay out of his bed. Like Gray, Fein and Schneider have become bestselling authors for their work on dating do's and don'ts.As a guy, there's something about being with someone who's so carefree and it's something you feel immediately, so yes, sex on the first night is okay with the right woman. I don't feel like having sex on the first night will challenge, or compromise.Sex Is A Yes, But The Type Of Woman Matters "I'm going to get so much sht for this says Ben, 27, "but I've dated a lot of artists and I've found that they're way more free-spirited when it comes to the sexual aspects of.